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Six Habits of Highly Grateful People
Here is a sample habit by Jeremy Adam Smith, featured in The Greater Good website. 5. They mention the pancakes Grateful people are habitually specific. They don’t say, “I love you because you’re just so wonderfully wonderful, you!” Instead, the really skilled grateful person will say: “I love you for the pancakes you make when you see I’m hungry and the way you massage my feet after work even when you’re really tired and how you give me hugs when I’m sad so that I’ll feel better!” The reason for this is pretty simple: It makes the expression of gratitude feel more authentic, for it reveals that the thanker was genuinely paying attention and isn’t just going through the motions. The richest thank you’s will acknowledge intentions (“the pancakes you make when you see I’m hungry”) and costs (“you massage my feet after work even when you’re really tired”), and they’ll describe the value of benefits received (“you give me hugs when I’m sad so that I’ll feel better”). When Amie Gordon and colleagues studied gratitude in couples, they found that spouses signal grateful feelings through more caring and attentive behavior. They ask clarifying questions; they respond to trouble with hugs and to good news with smiles. “These gestures,” Gordon writes, “can have profound effects: Participants who were better listeners during those conversations in the lab had partners who reported feeling more appreciated by them.” Remember: Gratitude thrives on specificity!
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Date Idea of the Week
Remember the Sound of Music…Visit the von Trapp Family Lodge in Vermont. Carole Terwilliger Meyers writes about six places for sleigh rides in her article. We have included the excerpt about the Trapp Family Lodge and their sleigh ride. 6 Places To Take Sleigh Rides By Carole Terwilliger Meyers TRAPP FAMILY LODGE Where: Stowe, Vermont Sleigh rides offered: December through February Before you visit this Green Mountain lodge, watch The Sound of Music with the kids and tell them the von Trapp family depicted in the movie opened this mountain inn in 1950. Two Belgian horses pull the sleigh, which holds ten people, and glides for a half hour over trails through birch trees and provides expansive mountain views Get more places on PearHaven's blog.
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